I posted a link to this a long time ago and now that I have some new readers I thought I’d post it again. I’ve noticed that it’s easy, even in the first few years of marriage, to become complacent. The spark starts to fade, we get a little unappreciative and throw a kid into the mix & you can easily become so taken over by the busyness of the day that you forget to take care of your husband.
My mom has always told me, “Treat your husband like a mistress would and he won’t ever need one.” Did you know that most men don’t cheat for sex, they cheat because that ‘other woman’ makes them feel like a man again. She pays attention to him, listens to him & makes him feel important. Not that I’m saying it’s the woman’s fault if her husband cheats, he’s a scoundrel (uh, are you reading this Jon Gosselan?) BUT I don’t think there’s anything wrong with playing the offense and making sure our husbands are taken care of.
I get these daily reminders, they take around two seconds to read & help me to keep P in mind. Here’s the one from today…
Posted: 07 Sep 2009 02:30 AM PDT
My husband was working through some preparations for a conference that we will run shortly. Every so often he would ask a question or ask for a helping hand. Honestly, I was getting a bit peeved that he kept interrupting me at the computer. Then I made a quick reassessment of the situation. I wasn’t doing anything that was absolutely necessary at the moment. I could reasonably take a bit of time and be a help. We really needed to get everything ready and what he was doing was time sensitive. So, I stopped being grumpy, helped out a bit and now I’m back to the computer with little out of my day. He’s happier and I’ve helped move things along.
I think sometimes, being generous has a very practical element to it. It’s about meeting your husband where he is, blessing him with what he needs and wants. I did have the time to help (if I had been into something important that I really couldn’t break from, he would have understood), my husband liked the company and it helped the work move along.
What does your husband need or want?
Great opportunities to help others seldom come, but small ones surround us every day. Sally Kock
Be generous! Lori <><
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By the way, where is everyone?? I guess everyone is away for the holiday weekend, it’s lonely here in blogland, I miss my comments!
Have fun on your last day of vaca and come back soon my Internet friends!!
Yes. Long weekends, make for quiet blog rolls.
Interesting thoughts. And can be so true. We get comfortable, and we forget – or rather assume – that love is implied. That we don't need to strive to show or act on our feelings for one another.
Being a good Wife, Mother, Daughter.. its a learning process. One we spend a life time learning. Amazingly we do it. With the goal to achieve even better the next.
Believe me. You're not alone…
MK
Thank you for sharing the link. My best friend and I use to say "if you dont take care of your man someone else will".
Thank you for sharing the link. My best friend and I use to say "if you dont take care of your man someone else will".
Yep, it's wierd, I've been seeing movies and reading things that are leaning towards how housewives (I know. not politically correct) were in the 1950's and it totally intrigues me.
I'm thinking about doing a generous coif in the hair and wearing a dress every once in awhile for when he comes home from work 🙂
You're so right about that stuff. My husband and I have been married a little over a year and I can definitely see a difference when I really give him attention as opposed to when I let other things that may seem important get in the way. Thanks!!